on being nice

a friend had written a fb status that got me thinking

she decided, she wants to be nice to everybody

to people saying nasty things about her, to people that anger her, hurt her, make her sad or simply don’t like her

she wants to be nice to them and smile

and if they don’t like that either that’s ok too


I kind of get the idea

if being not-nice was causing her harm it is understandable that she wants to change her approach, if confrontation makes her miserable it’s better that way

but I don’t believe in “nice” when people are mean, when they are nasty, when they deliberately disrespect and upset others

I belive in standing up for myself and for others

so no, I will NOT be nice if someone is rasist, homophobic, agressive, nasty, bullying, viciously gossiping

I won’t sit there and smile, or smile and leave

I will never ignore verbal or physical abuse, talking shit behind someones back and I definitely will not be nice to people who deliberately hurt other people or animals

no fucking chance

cause I believe in standing up for weak, harmed and hurt

and I payed for not being nice, more that once

but I still will say big fat: FUCK OFF to every bully, to every false friend, to every nasty  or manipulative person trying to harm me or my friends

I will call out their bullshit

and yes, I won’t be popular, liked or “positive”

but I will be honest and true to what I believe in

being nice is not my priority

being REAL is

so when I’m angry I won’t smile and be nice

when I’m hurt I won’t smile and be nice

when I’m sad, upset, shaken, furious, scared I won’t smile and be nice

I’ll stand up for myself

and I’ll stand up for others if needed

and I will take consequences and responsibility for that

so it’s ok if someone likes it

if not they can fuck off



3 Replies to “on being nice”

  1. Wydaje mi się, że koleżanka pomyliła stan pogodzenia ze światem z byciem miłym dla wszystkich. Bo jak tu postanowić sobie być miłym dla wszystkich, jeżeli nie jest to twoja natura? Jeżeli byłoby to w jej naturze, jej zakresie, to nie musiałaby sobie tego postanawiać. A postanawiając sobie sprzeciwia się swojej naturze i sama sobie robi kuku. A takie kuku boli, ropieje, i zmienia się w paskudne choroby. Warto być sobą, nie kimś innym, nawet milszym, różowym w kropki, lub dwadzieścia kilo szczuplejszym ( wciąż próbuję to sobie wmówić 😀 ).


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